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5 Ways to Increase Your Self-Esteem

There are so many things that can affect your self-esteem.  Your upbringing, any traumatic experiences, or even the people you associate yourself with can affect the way you see yourself.  The funny thing about self-esteem is that you may be viewing yourself in a completely different light than how everyone else sees you.  But it does not matter how wonderful everyone else thinks you are if you do not see yourself that way.  Raising your self-esteem is critical because it is a lot easier to reach your goals and dreams if you believe that you can.  The following are some ways to increase your self-esteem.

Think and Speak Positively

It is important to be conscious of your thoughts because negative thoughts often lead to negative words.  Controlling your thoughts is a process but you can start by challenging those negative thoughts that may enter your mind.  If you have a negative thought, stop, and ask yourself if it based in reality or in fears.  Turn that negative thought into a positive one, even if you have to speak the positive version of the thought out loud.  Your words are powerful, and it is critical to your self-image and self-esteem that you speak and think positive thoughts.

Believe in Yourself

Have you ever been in a situation where you were being encouraged by those around, but you had no real belief in yourself?  A huge part of building your self-esteem is believing and having confidence in yourself.  It can sometimes be hard to brag on yourself but thinking about or making a list of all your accomplishments can help build your self-confidence.  The main goal is to be aware of your strengths and weakness and think of yourself in the best possible light.  Genuine belief in yourself will lead to an increase in self-esteem.

Celebrate Success

Sometimes we can be so humble that we do not toot our own horn.  But there is no harm in celebrating your successes.  As a matter of fact, it is an important part of building your self-esteem.  It builds your self-esteem when you celebrate all accomplishments, both big and small.  On those days where your self-esteem may be a little low, remember your accomplishments and know that it if you did it then, you can do it now.  Do not hesitate to celebrate yourself.

Give Yourself the Grace You Give Others

We often give others the breaks and kind words that we do not give ourselves.  A big part of building up your self- esteem is to forgive yourself if you fall short.  Do not tie shortcomings to your self-worth.  When others fall short or do not meet our expectations, we often tell them not to worry about it or that it will be okay. We do not hold it against them.  Give yourself the same grace and forgiveness that you give others.  Your past mistakes do not affect your self-worth so be very conscious of letting it affect your self-esteem.

Face Your Fears

Not shying away and facing your fears takes a lot of strength to do.  When you overcome your fears and succeed in doing those things that you wanted to accomplish, your confidence begins to rise, and you begin to feel that you can do almost anything. This feeling is what gives you the rise in your self-esteem.  Once your self-esteem begins to rise, you begin to have the confidence that you can do anything.  Facing your fears can go a long way in increasing your self-esteem.

What are some things that you do to raise your self-esteem when you feel like it is low?

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14 thoughts on “5 Ways to Increase Your Self-Esteem

  1. Great Post filled helpful tips.

    1. Glad you enjoyed it!

  2. I love this article! You really hit the key parts of gaining back self-esteem 🙂

    1. Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it.

  3. Great self-esteem tips Gayle! These are all areas I work on on a regular basis to avoid falling back into a negative mindset.

    1. I am glad you enjoyed it. You hit the nail on the head. You have to consciously work on it.

  4. Amazing post! I love your suggestion to “give yourself the grace you give others.” It amazes me how often we treat ourselves in a way we would never dream of treating another. Thanks for sharing this great advice!

    1. And we do this without even thinking don’t we? We can start with our self talk being the way you speak to others. I am glad you enjoyed it.

  5. These are some awesome tips. Thanks for reminding me that we have to celebrate success. I am a very reserve person and sometime I have to remind myself that its OK to toot my own horn because that’s what really us going . Thanks for sharing!

    1. I think some people shy away from celebrating themselves because they feel it is them bragging or being cocky. I am glad you remind yourself that it is okay to celebrate yourself. Glad you enjoyed!!

  6. Excellent tips! I just wrote a similar article a while back, was fun to read someone else’s ideas on the same topic! 😀

    1. Thank you!

  7. Thoughts are everything!

    1. Yes they are! Everything begins with a thougt.

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