There is always the possibility that something could go wrong. You can finally start that business you have been dreaming of but be fearful that it will not take off as you want. You can have your eye on a certain position at work but be fearful that someone else is selected for that position. I am not here to tell you that bad things do not happen – we all know that is not true. What I am here to tell you is that focusing on our desired positive outcome is more productive than focusing on our fears on the things that could go wrong. Focusing on the things that can go right will keep you moving toward your goal. Focusing on the things you fear is more likely to get you to a place where you begin to doubt your goals. And if there is enough doubt, you will lose your motivation to even try to reach your goals. Losing motivation will cause you to become stagnant. To be successful, you must focus on the positive and only the positive. What will you do to change your mindset to only focus on the things you desire?
I talk about the fear of failure a lot in The Serenity Room. That is because it can be linked to so many different things as it relates to how we respond or not respond to different aspects of our lives. As it relates to procrastination, the fear of not succeeding at a task keeps us from moving towards its completion. For example, If you are tasked with putting together a presentation as part of a job interview, your fear of not doing well during the presentation could cause you to procrastinate with creating the presentation. This could cause you to have to rush to put it together. The job that could have been yours now may not be due to the procrastination that then leads you to create a sub-par presentation. The fear of failure leads us to wait until the last minute which leads you to not do your best. This can be seen in many areas of our lives. The struggle to get started because of the fear of the results is a common one.
So how do you combat this fear of failure? The simplified answer to this question is to change your way of thinking. Yes, I already know that it is not that easy but that is the most basic way to combat the fear of failure. You have to question your thoughts. Doubt your doubts. When you set your goals, you set it with the intent of succeeding. No one makes a goal that they intend to not achieve. But somewhere along the way self-doubt, fear, and negative thinking come into play and all of a sudden you feel that you can no longer reach the goal that you have set for yourself. Change the thoughts that cause you to fear that you will never be successful – challenge those thoughts and move through fear. Think about why you started your journey. Think about the joys of success. Think about how much you can accomplish as you reach goal after goal after goal. The sky is truly the limit if you face fear head-on. And if you don’t reach your goal, step back and see what was done wrong. Then make your adjustments and try again. Whatever you do, do not give up.
Coming Up Tomorrow: Perfectionism