So I am going to start this off by acknowledging that there are many barriers to positivity. Getting and remaining positive can be a challenge. It may be even harder during these times because so many not so positive things are happening right now. People are losing jobs, businesses are going under, parents are trying to work from home while supervising children who are attending school virtually. It is a lot. It is easy to feel that there is not much to be positive about. I have often thought this myself. But sometimes positivity is exactly what you need in times like these.
Looking at Your Reality
It is hard to be positive when your reality appears very bleak. Our day to day lives are stressful and can feel like a rat race. We go to work, we take care of our children, we run our errands, and then we wake up the next morning to do it all again. When our lives look the same day in and day out, it is not so much that you are sad, it is just that there is nothing especially positive happening. Your rut can put you into a space of accepting that your rat race is all that life has to offer.
Nothing Positive is Happening
You ever experience a space in time where it seems like nothing is going right? Or let’s make it more relevant to what is going on today. What if you have had your hours cut on your job due to COVID-19 and now you are wondering how you are going to pay your rent or mortgage. Then your job search is hindered because you have to supervise your school age children while they attend school virtually. I have been in situations where people have advised that I be positive and I have challenged them to tell me to find the positive in my situation. It is very, very hard to think positive when your perception of your reality is very negative. Your perception of your reality can be a huge barrier to positivity.
Making Speaking Negatively a Habit
We all may engage in a little negative self-talk from time to time. Read my previous post on eliminating negative self-talk here. The key is to not to give that negative voice too much of a place in your thoughts. If negative thinking and negative self-talk is what normally goes through your mind throughout the day, then it has become a habit. It is very hard for positive thoughts to break through when the negative thoughts are easier to access. Negative self-talk can become a habit without you even realizing it. This can make it very hard for you to think positively.
The Company You Keep
You ever had someone in your circle who always has something negative to say? Some people call these type of people Negative Nancies or Debbie Downers. The bottom line is that it is very hard to keep a positive outlook when you have people around you who constantly remind you of what could go wrong, where your shortfalls lie, and why you will not achieve a certain goal. The company you keep and what they feed your spirit is almost as bad as negative self-talk. Positive thinking is hard when you surround yourself with negative people.
So I have acknowledged a few barriers to positive thinking but I am sure there are more. As you can see, positive thinking is a choice and there are many things that can keep you from thinking positively.
What other things do you consider to be barriers to positivity?