There are so many benefits to physical activity. Whether you are running, walking, or just moving around your house, physical activity decreases tension and stress while giving you a natural energy boost. It can also reduce your risk of becoming depressed during this time. When you stay in bed or start to become inactive, you may feel sluggish and your mental health may begin to be affected. Move around even it is just to walk to the mailbox. A part of self-care is to keep moving so that you can keep your energy level up and hopefully your mood elevated.
There is often great comfort in routine. Knowing what is coming next can often ease a lot of anxiety. There is a lot going on around the holidays and there is often a lot of pressure to get into the holiday spirit. If you begin to feel down, sometimes the easiest way to get back to feeling like yourself a little is to continue your routine. It may not be easy, and you may not feel up to continuing your entire routine but doing those things that are familiar can help prevent you from falling into a prolonged period of not feeling like yourself.
When sad or unpleasant feelings begin to overwhelm us, your natural tendency may be to press them down and ignore them. Doing this can lead to these emotions “eating you up” on the inside and will eventually begin to affect your mental and physical health. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotion that comes your way. If you feel like laughing, laugh. If you feel like crying, cry. If you want to be to yourself because it is just too much to be around people, do that. You can often do more harm to yourself than good when you try to suppress these feelings. Be open to your feelings and allow yourself to feel them in their totality. Accepting your feelings is a form of self-care as you allow yourself to feel emotions and work through them.
Holidays are a great time to reflect on our many blessings. A great way to practice self-care is to think of the things that you must be thankful for. This year was challenging, and you may have lost a lot – but try to focus on those things that you can be thankful for. A good way to practice self-care is to keep a running list or journal to serve as a reminder of all the things you should be thankful for. A vital part of your self-care could be to revisit your list or journal entries and think back on all the things you have to be thankful for.
Previous tip: SayNo!
Holidays can be full of invitations. The celebrations may look and feel a little different this year, but the invitations will probably still come. You may feel obligated to attend or participate in these events because you were invited or because the event may be something that you would have attended in the past. There is power in the word ‘no’. I am talking about a good, old fashioned, solid ‘no’. The kind of no that does not come with an explanation or an apology. You deserve a holiday that does not leave you feeling overwhelmed and drained because you agreed to something that you really should have passed on.
I have always been aware of the idea of journaling but I have never heard it advocated as a practice as much as I have this year. I am sure that is due to the challenging year that this has been. Journaling has been suggested by many as a healthy way to process the many emotions that may be felt during these times. Many people often confuse keeping a journal with keeping a diary. They are similar but the main difference is that a diary is a record of what happened. A journal is a record of your thoughts and feelings. There are several benefits to journaling.
Journal to Relieve Anxiety and Stress
Have you ever had so much on your mind that it was just too much to process? And after you talked it out you realized that your issue was not as bad as you thought? Journaling is similar to talking something out with a friend. Anxiety and stress can be eased when you write out your thoughts concerning those things that are making you anxious. Journaling can provide you with clarity if it is a decision or circumstance that is causing you stress. Writing out your thoughts on the issue that is making you anxious could greatly assist you with solving the issue or allowing you to see the big picture. Either of these outcomes can ease stress and anxiety.
Journal to Recognize Patterns
Whether we realize it or not, we all have patterns. If you talk to your friends about a situation enough they can probably tell you where the situation is headed based on similar conversations. Journaling can help you see those patterns for yourself. As you write about how different situations make you feel or your thought process around certain decisions, you will begin to notice patterns. You may notice that use negative self-talk or you may notice that you do not have as much confidence in yourself as you should. Patterns can be seen as you write and then reflect on those things that you have written. Reading past entries can provide you a new perspective on your behavior.
Journal to Become Empowered
Journaling can give you a sense of empowerment as you can write your deepest, most intimate thoughts. Whether writing about your experiences or through journal prompts, you will begin to gain more clarity on how you think and how certain experiences have shaped you. Journaling can help you discover more about yourself. You can discover what makes you happy, what causes you stress, as well as those aspects of yourself that you wish to improve. Discovering your personal strengths and the power you possess in these strengths is a wonderful feeling. But discovering those areas that you may need to work on to enhance your personal growth can be life changing.
Journal to Track Goals
Journals can help you track progress toward an established goal. After identifying your goal, a journal can help you determine both your good and bad habits that may be helping or hindering you from achieving your goal. It could be your innermost thoughts or the company you keep but reflecting on past journal entries will help you to begin to see what your barriers are. Likewise, you will be able to see who or what promotes a healthy path to your goals. You will be able to learn a lot about yourself in the process and this will make future goals easier to achieve.
Journal In a Safe Zone
Have you ever just wanted to be brutally honest with someone regarding the way you felt but was leery due to the judgment that may follow this honesty? All of us feel vulnerable from time to time. A journal is a safe place to write what you feel in a safe space. No one will see your inner most thoughts except those you choose to see them. A journal is a place where you can be your most authentic self. Feel free to write honestly as being candid is one of the main ways to get the total benefits of journaling. You can learn a lot about yourself when you allow yourself to be vulnerable.
These are just a few benefits of journaling. Do you journal? What are some benefits of journaling that you would add to this list?
As a special needs parent, your self- care regimen is important. Caring for a child with special needs can be stressful. In fact, the word stressful may be an understatement. We all can attest that there are great days where our kids achieve something that we thought would not happen as soon as it did. Your fellow special needs parents can understand the joy of a child eating a new food or acquiring a new skill or even speaking after countless doctors have told you that your child is nonverbal and will remain that way.
There is another thing I think we all can agree with when it comes to being parents of children with special needs and that is the fact that we often neglect to take care of ourselves. As a busy mother of four children – one having an autism diagnosis – I am guilty if not taking care of myself like I should. The following are a few ways that we can practice self-care.
Take 5-10 minutes for yourself
Depending on your situation, this suggestion may seem virtually impossible. But you can do it. You can spend this time mindlessly doodling. Or you can use this time to just taking deep, cleansing breaths. Deep breathing allows your body to relax and release any stress while giving you a boost of energy. The life of a special needs parent can be very hectic and stressful. Taking mental breaks can be just the thing you need to get you through your day.
Every day is not going to be a good day
We would all like to think that we can hold it together all day every day. We hold the belief so tightly that we often think we have failed if we have a bad day. Every day is not going to be a good day. A bad day does not make you a bad parent. A bad day does not mean that you are not cut out to be a special needs parent or caregiver. A bad day does not make you a failure. Try your best to keep things in perspective. Some days are just going to be hard but, as cliché’ as it sounds, tomorrow is a new day.
Allow yourself to feel
Life can be challenging as a special needs parent. There is the constant worry that all of your child’s needs are not being met. There is the isolation that your family may experience due to your child not being able to be around large crowds or loud places. You may feel hesitant to honestly express yourself due to not wanting to sound like you are complaining. But it is imperative that you allow yourself to feel whatever you may be feeling in the moment. Whether you journal or whether you have a good friend you can share your feelings with, allow yourself to feel. Allowing yourself to feel is a form of self-care because this can release some of your anxieties.
Be kind to yourself
Sometimes we can be our own enemy. We can often become hindered by own negative self-talk and negative thoughts. Do whatever you can to remain positive. Remind yourself of the great job that you are doing. Find something to do that is just for you. Read a good book even if you can only read a couple of pages a day. Find a show that you like on TV and watch it even if it takes forever to get through the whole series. The point is to not lose yourself and to stay connected to what you enjoy. So write if you like to write, read if you like to read, do whatever it is that you like to do even if you can only do it every now and then. Doing what you like to do it a form of self-care.
Take care of your mental health
Special needs parents experience a wide range of issues. There is guilt, anxiety, stress, depression, the list goes on and on. It is imperative that you take care of your mental health. Surround yourself with people who encourage and uplift you. This can be achieved through support groups or through connecting with people who have a similar circumstance to yours. Be aware of your mental health and do not hesitate to see a therapist if you feel that that is what you need. In other words, your self-care journey includes taking care of your mental health needs the same way that you take care of the needs of those that you care for and love.
It is not easy being the parent or caregiver of a special needs child. You always wonder if you are doing enough and you can sometimes be your own toughest critic. I am here to tell you that you are doing a great job. You get up every day and do it have to be done for your family. Keep doing what you are doing and remember to take care of yourself.
What other self-care ideas would you add to this list?
My last couple of posts have been on barriers to positivity and ways to achieve mindfulness. This week’s post is going to focus on the benefits of positive thinking. It can often be challenging to think positively and to always look at the bright side. Although it is challenging there are so many benefits to positive thinking.
Positive Thinking Gives Hope
Have you ever been in a situation where the only think you had was the hope that everything was going to be all right? Hope is often lost when you only dwell on the things that can go wrong. By its definition, hope is the expectation and desire that something will happen. When things are beginning to look bleak and your thoughts are beginning to shift to the negative, positive thinking can help you get focused on positive outcomes. Positive thinking can often give you renewed hope in situations that you felt were hopeless.
Positive Thinking Leads to Resilience
Consistent positive thinking leads to positive thinking becoming a habit. It will become second nature to see the good in a situation and you will find that you do not always consciously talk yourself into thinking positively. Resilience will make you better able to respond to adversity of tough circumstances with the belief that everything will work out in the long run. Focusing on positive outcomes, and only positive outcomes, can help build the resilience that you need to make it through tough times.
Attract Other Positive People
Having a positive outlook on life will make it more likely that you will want that for other people. Your positivity will lead you to encourage others and to want nothing but positive outcomes for them. Consistent positive people will either attract people to you or drive people away from you. Those with a not so positive outlook will either adapt or slowly distance themselves. In the end, your circle will consist of those individuals whose positive thinking matches yours. This will lead you to having a more positive set of friends and acquaintances who will consistently reciprocate your positivity.
Positive thinking helps you to see the positive side of things – even the things we often take for granted. When you consistently think negatively, you can miss the good things that are happening around you. Negative thinking can sometimes have you thinking that nothing is going right and that there is nothing to be grateful. Positive thinking will open your eyes to see the many things that you should be thankful for. This gratitude can help you enjoy life more as you remain grateful for all that you have. This gratefulness can go a long way while working towards the things that you desire.
Better Mental Health
When you focus your energy on thinking positively, you may feel that a lot of the worries and heaviness that you carry around is alleviated. Having a more positive outcome can help to ease anxiety which can lead to less stress. As many of us know, stress is one of those things that can take a life of its own. Positive thinking has been shown to lessen bouts of anxiety and depression and leading to a more consistent positive outlook on life. Positive thinking can also help you gain a more positive view of yourself which can lead to more positive self-talk which increase your sense of self-worth.
As you can see there are quite a few benefits to thinking positively. Over time and with practice, hopefully you will begin to experience these benefits.
What would you add to this list?